I think the wife probably did know, hence the reason she gave him the child/ren to take on his date!! Pretty good way of sabotaging any relationship in my opinion!!!
LOL Beans, very graphic description :ben:Then I am 32...cool ,man! If my husband turned out to be a rat he would be better off commiting suicide because when I get to him he would wish he had.I swear I would break all his bones and slash his face to bits and wreck the whole place,I would not go over alone though.The beating up I would do alone though.
And therein lies the main problem!!! If I had a pound for everytime I have heard, 'Yes, but my man is different', only for the same woman to approach me anything between 1-5 years later and say 'you were right and I wish I had listened to my instincts' I would be a very rich woman!!! :ben:Coming back to the rat problem I think the major hazard is when a woman actually has the knowledge on rats , is with one, sleeps with one, marries one, supports one, listens and talks to one and STILL IS CONVINCED he is not a rat.
Then, how to run? How to see?
I think that is very sad. And wrong. Part of life is to deal with the ups and downs, highs and lows, to love and yes, to be hurt.If by any remote chance either of them got involved with any North African guy, I would deliberately sabotage the relationship (on his behalf) whilst maintaining the trust of my daughter. I am not ashamed to admit that. I wouldn't even be willing to take the chance, that this one WAS different.
I can see where you're coming from. As I've experienced the two sides of the coin. Presently & God willing the good side of it will last a life time.TB,
I fully respect your reply and take on board your views.
I am afraid, that for me personally, the risks are just too high to take the chance that 'he' may be different. Statistics prove otherwise.
As I said it was my personal view and I do not expect anyone to either agree or disagree with what I said. I am in the current position of having my eldest daughter in a relationship with a Pakistani, the thought of a child being involved absolutely terrifies me.
My youngest daughters boyfriend is English and is a complete twat too but I will stand by her and do whatever I have to do to protect her.
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You can marry mine very kind hearted 21 does not want to leave home because his mother (me) does everything for him lazy around the house but works full time and never refuses overtime at workthat, or marry a carefully vetted son of one of our members here (I have a list :ben
To be quite honest I do agree things do change, but as with everything in life; we personalise and end up thinking with our hearts (sometimes feet! :ben Instead of our heads.Things will change in few years, demographics, economics, and cultural. who's to say things won't tip the other way.
Speaking of statistics have you looked at the divorce rate in the UK regardless of the race/cultural makeup ?