Visa Hunting Tunisian Love Rats.

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  1. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Me too.....I love a woman with real fire in her soul and passion in her heart! :D
    My rat could never do this....he had an aversion to washing himself once a week under duress....contact with water five times a day would kill him :D
    It used to make me cringe when his dad was washing for mosque....and snorted the water up his nose to clean it :eek: I have a fear of water (not washing, I mean not being able to breathe)....so that kinda freaked me out a bit.
     
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    Mystery Well-Known Member

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    They are unable to feel love. There is something missing in thier brains I was going to say jeans haha. I don't understand how there is no feelings with them. It's them are all plastic. At least a convert try and learn I guess. Being brought up as a muslim as a no effect on them no shame. They are blank
    I am talking about rats only here.
     
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    Mystery Well-Known Member

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    One thing I hated I was not allowed to shower every day..
    I know why the women wear hijab btw so they don't have to do thier hair. Lol
     
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    Mystery Well-Known Member

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    Did you ever notice the colour hijab matched with their shoes and of course the lippy..
     
  5. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Ya, that lurid, fuchsia pink lipstick....and sky blue eyeshadow...t'was quite a look :D
    Still preferable to the zombie make up at weddings though...some of them looked downright frightening :p
     
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    Heidi The Sleuth

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    Thick c unt
     
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    Jisela Well-Known Member

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    Your post made me think...it's a little funny, now hindsight. Today, my rat agreed to divorce and to never contact me again, which is a gain especially because I was able to spoil his immigration plans, because this site helped me so much to navigate all of this. But, also because of this site, I really pounded my rat with fear of Allah for all sorts of bad behavior. It drove him a little nuts after a while, because I would talk about it A LOT (with emphasis on fire and brimstone and judgment, topics). He did eventually start to pray, but it backfired a lil' bit, because he started judging me more because I was not part of his religion. :/

    Now, he wants to be a perfect Muslim, and I really admire his motivation to somewhat change his ways, but he has a lot to learn about responsibility and taking care of a wife. I really hope his second wife is a Muslim and cleans the floor with his bad behavior, because religion is not all about looking good, disco, alcohol, smoking cigarettes, drinking coffee, and judging the woman, it's going to be about his ability to provide home, clothes, food, etc. etc. My rat lacks an education and good career, so he's going to really need to start taking all of those rules, very seriously.

    I'm so happy that while I'm hurt, I can wish him the best, because I wasn't blindsided. I can see and feel just by this stuff, that it could absolutely floor a woman and destroy her, if she had no idea of any of the cultural, religious differences, lack of respect shown for victims of a rat (and why), how she's seen in their society, etc. etc. and how different the rat's behavior is towards her without respect. It is so sad... like, oh my gosh, this site helped me and I feel so sorry for the women who didn't have a clue.

    These rats need to get to work long and hard in their country to make something of it, instead of standing around and looking good for each other. Then, they need to buy land, get the gold, make a good relationship with the woman's family, and hope to achieve this at least by 35 years old. It's a hard life, but when done honestly, it's respectable. Rats need to get with the program :)
     
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  9. Laura2014

    Laura2014 Well-Known Member

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    I hope you have managed to leave the country. He may be repentant now but as we all know this can change very rapidly. I hope by his new found sudden niceness he does not convince you to try again.

    You executed your plan well and safely got away. I hope you will find some peace and contentment and are never tempted to return.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Laura’s point of view is very certain, my rat did this and I went back to him after canceling my trip four times!! Don’t believe he wants to be a better person, he won’t, he can’t. Better to run while things are in calm. Xxxx
     
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    I'm leaving in 4 days. Don't worry, I've blocked him on my email accounts and will never speak with him again. He really disgusts me. I fell in love with a dream, and the real person is a pig. His heart is selfish and stupid, even though he thinks he's a real smart guy. I will have peace and contentment when I heal over time. Some days are better than others, but I was already secretly grieving when I was sleeping next to him in bed, all because of this website. By the time this happened, I am crying and it's hard, but I was prepared.

    It's strange to have so many good days so soon after a major breakup. It's not always perfect and easy, because it still floors me and my mind goes through the same questions, like why wasn't I this, and why didn't he do that, etc. etc. But, the preparation helped me. I think that by the time I get back to my home, it will be hard to pick up some pieces, but I will definitely not be tempted to return to him. Ever. He's a really weak, selfish, confused person -- even at his best, he's going to have some problems because of his actions, now. I'm definitely finished with him.
     
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    Thank you, Amber. I went through the same things, but I went to hotels in the area. I also took a trip to Italy, and then came back because he was so upset... blah, blah, blah, probably while watching porn. Such a jerk. I don't believe he wants to be a better person, I think he's just looking to manipulate everyone, and he did also partially use returning to his religion to destroy our marriage and make me the bad person, again. I called him out on it, too, but it's all in the past.

    I won't go back and there's nothing that I want to talk to him about, ever again. I'm so glad he doesn't live in my country.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    You will get stronger and feel peaceful again, thankfully you manage to close the cycle on time wich is a great asset, his time in your life is over and you deserve to be happy and respected. Sending you a big hug, please stay in touch and let us know you are safe at home with loved ones. ♥️
     
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    Jisela,
    Please take it easy, you have taken the first step to rid yourself of your rat.
    The next days after leaving is hard. You will miss the chats the messages of love. The pics he send you. You will miss him then you will be angry.
    You want to kill him, he will find a way to contact you. Mine yesterday made a fb page of a friend of mine. Your emotions will be all over the place.
    Take each day as it comes relax but also keep busy. Don't think to much about the what Ifs.
    He will be looking for sympathy don't give it..
    They don't change and he won't ever be a good muslim.. it's to late for him to change..
    Please come here often the more you talk to like minded people the better. Make fun of your rat laugh about him here.. I am still angry at mine but now I can laugh here with these crazy women haha the best part is no one say it was my own fault. :D:eek::eek::D
     
  15. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    God.....how I can relate to these words...I was doing exactly the same thing....had been for a while.
    I was developing a huge dislike of him, to the point that every little thing he did just annoyed me, it all highlighted how pathetic and weak he really was.
    I really look forward to the post where you let us know you are safely home....but Mystery is right...that is when you will grieve.
    I was so relieved to leave my rat, so free....but I still grieved, I still hurt....everything felt so alien to me in England....the food, the fast pace of life, the colours, the temperature, the language....even now, I still don't like English food.
    Healing is slow, it's not easy...but you got us wazzocks here rooting for you....it's a sure thing....I don't honestly don't know how I would have coped without this forum.

    I hope you really do leave this time. It's hard....but healing will begin properly at home, even though like me.... you've already started the process, completion can't happen until you are 100% free of him :)
     
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    I was wondering about all of that, because I love to travel and I love my home. So, I've sort of been wondering how it will be to get back, entering through a big city. It was really hard to adjust to being here, so I know it will be a process to adjust to being home again. I will be on the forums here, as support. Thanks for the advice.
     
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    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Yeah, I'm not gonna lie....it's not easy. You don't realise how much your personality has adapted to fit into your new environment until you leave it.
    Even after recovery, you will never be exactly who you were before rat, so the things you loved about your own country before you left it suddenly don't feel the same anymore, elements of it become pretty scary, like crowds, and for me in England....even the way I crossed the road. To this day....I still look to the left, like in Tunisia...tis a miracle I haven't been killed :D

    You can still travel. I also love to travel, and since leaving rat, travel is better....as I can now explore different places, I'm not tied to Tunisia...and you will have this too :)

    I actually found it easier to settle into Tunisia, than I did settling down again in England. I think when you move to a foreign country....especially one with such an incredibly different culture, everything is new and exciting, there are new foods to sample, different buildings to look at, the clothes are different, the culture is fascinating, the music is different etc.....but when you leave it and return to what you knew before, it seems dull and lifeless.
    More than anything...I really missed hearing Call to prayer, laying on the roof watching the night sky (not an option on an English style roof, unless you have an accessible flat roof :D ), the sound of the crickets at night etc.
    I have adapted to being back here, I'm blessed with my beautiful family....but I still miss Tunisia. Not him...just the calm, slow lifestyle.
    You'll be ok, but don't expect to just settle straight back into the life you knew before....it isn't gonna happen.
     
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    I know, just like you said... the slow lifestyle... I will miss the sounds of the birds, the bougainvillea, the broken streets, the overgrown trees and vines, pottery, and of course the sea. There are so many beautiful things about this country, and the people. It's so sad I spent almost 2 years in pain. Honestly, this has been the first week for me that I was able to enjoy Tunisia in peace. Otherwise, this country does feel small.

    I will be heading to a remote area very close to the border of Canada where I'll have access to some amazing hiking and remote areas. I know it will feel a little empty, because I was speaking to him then. But, I do miss seeing the mountains and having coffee in the snow. It's too bad I didn't get out during the summertime, because I'd be playing in beautiful rivers. Regardless, I will get my stuff organized, probably visit family, and drive for a while cross country. I'll hide out for the winter and see what happens.
     
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    And, I will post some photos here, if that's a safe idea.
     
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    What I miss about these Arab countries.
    I do miss the call to prayer.
    I don't miss the bugs omg I had a big ginger hairy thing in the bathroom. Omg (bug) I mean lol
    The smell of sewradge yuck I can still taste it..
    Being kept in the home knowing there was others sun bathing by the beach.
    Washing clothes in cold water.
    Being afraid of electricity so dangerous.
    No showering each day.
    Using a hose up my ass while they all laughed at my screams.
    No McDonald's
    Rats every where.
    Most importantly my rat.
    I am free it's a wonderful feeling.
    I do miss him but I am out for revenge more.
    How dare he take my self respect my heart my soul my freedom and my loyalty.
    Scamming pig.
     
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    Jisela Well-Known Member

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    What happened to your rat, Mystery? If you don't mind me asking.
     
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    *hugs*
    I am so happy you are almost free of that place! Please don’t even talk to him. He can do the divorce in Tunisia without you.
     
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    Photos of what? Your hiking? I would absolutely love to see them!! I would suggest you do not post pics with your face, nor anybody else's in...but the beautiful scenery....definitely.
    If you don't want your exact location known, be careful of identifying features, road names etc.

    I often thought of starting a thread for photos on here, but I was reluctant to show pics of Tunisia, as many show the beauty of the country....and I will never encourage anybody to go there.

    On my FB, I kept my posts customised, so only certain friends could see pics that identified my location, showed the faces of my family etc...and I wouldn't post pics here (or as FB cover pics) of a location until after I'd left that place.

    One of my ways of dealing with PTSD is keeping my exact location hidden from those I do not trust implicitly, and so although I am practically house bound here, because that thing knows where I live....it means I have the mental freedom to move around safely abroad.

    If you don't want them on a thread....there is always pm :)
     
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    That's good to know. I told him I will send him an address for those papers (a shipping address, not personal one), if needed. Otherwise, he knows he will be paying for it, because I paid for other things --- enough to make me resentful.
     
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    When I got home I didn’t leave my house for 3 months.
     

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