Why does he hurt me

Discussion in 'Rat Behavior' started by Galleta, Feb 14, 2019.

  1. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Our countries are different.....we pay each other back :thumbsup:
    My gut says this bloke lost his big fish, his main source of income, so he is now working on grooming his smaller fishes, plus trying to hook new ones.
    He IS a rat....and it IS about money.
    Definitely. I have sons.....so I can see this is not a maternal thing.
    Yes, he is.
    He had another victim providing the money. She must have seen the light.
    Yes, he knows, she told him ......and he is now manipulating her by blocking her, after she refused to send him money.
    Rat :thumbsup:
    I do. I can see it in every word Galetta has written on various threads.
    Give it time.....he is testing how hooked she is first.
    Those words will come :thumbsup:
    Come on, GFTL.....we both know how it works in Tunisia....he would never be left without....his family will help him.
    Mine still got money handed to him by mummy, even though I was there. She never did it obviously in front of me, tried to be discreet, but I saw it loads of times, plus he openly admitted mummy gave him money......and my rat did not pretend his family were well off, yet she still did it. The families help each other, as do the friends.
    I'm still waiting for my rat to ask me for money.....he never did.
    They have exchanged photos. I seem to recall Galetta is about twenty years his senior....she has started a few new threads, each one exposing more detail.
     
  2. Brasilgirl

    Brasilgirl Well-Known Member

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    My rat never asked me for money. Maybe this guy tried with the love but she was wanting friendship? It’s hard to say but a good Tunisian man doesn’t maintain a friendship with a older foreign woman on-line, and a rat wouldn’t without a purpose. Maybe he was keeping her for a visa.
    Either way, if he’s good or bad, she can’t be with him so it’s not a healthy situation for her.
     
  3. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    No, he had a big fish....but now, he has lost her.
    He's kept Galetta hanging as an emergency fish....well, times have gotten hard....time to work on the small and medium fish....see which one will bite the bait and become the new big fish.

    My rat had a big fish, a Russian girl.....he was with her for about two years before he found me, but she was only an online big fish, she couldn't afford to visit him, they never met. I saw their messages one year into our 'relationship', he was working her hard....she was his only hope at that point.

    Then rat hooked me. His big Russian fish was thrown away, he had hit the jackpot....a fish from England.
    I became the new big fish because I was from England, the country where our government apparently give money to everyone for free, plus I could literally be with him in the flesh. It didn't matter if she or I were prettier, younger etc....what mattered was location and his access to cash in the future.

    After I found his other victims, he moved them to different accounts and lied to me.....but he still kept them hanging, just in case it did not go to plan with me.
    This is what Galetta's rat has done....he kept her hanging, just in case.
    She was an emergency fallback victim, not a visa victim. If he gets his way, she will become a cash cow and a potential visa.
     
  4. Amira

    Amira Well-Known Member

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    Unfortunately you are right and unfortunately he has too much control over her and he knows that. This man is extremely slippery and after what I have read he is an experienced love rat I think. He is a dangerrous person to know
     
  5. Mystery

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    I am not sure but they must have had a conversation about women because she got jealous about it. Look at the name of this thread
    Why do he keep hurting me ?
    If romance has not been discussed then why is he hurting her by telling her about other women.
    Either way it's strange, if he's not mentioned romantic feelings then what's he doing wrong.?
    Asked her for money once I think we're not getting the full story.
    Sorry I say this but obvious he's a rat and she searched to find this site. Posted here asking do we think he's a rat.
    Now good for her for coming here to find out.
    Good she can tell her story to us, she needs guidance and we must try and understand her situation we can only help if we are given the whole story.
    Sorry but there is more to this guy and so far I smell rat.
     
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  6. Going for the limit

    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    I am totally lost off to be honest i find it confusing with the son thing then the romantic interest but i must admit i am not caught up on all threads. This is why threads should just stick to one rat only .:confused:
     
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  7. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    The threads about this rat....I do think are only about this rat.....it's just that there are about three different threads on him :D

    Here is one:
    https://www.tunisianloverats.com/threads/bizarre-behaviours.4843/

    And another one:
    https://www.tunisianloverats.com/threads/advice-about-a-friendship.4840/

    And another one:
    https://www.tunisianloverats.com/threads/is-he-being-sarcastic.4846/#post-292017

    I think that's all of them, by having them all together like this, things make sense to others. They are all on public threads, so sharing here is ok :)

    If you read them all.....you will see as clear as the nose on your face that this freak is bezness.
    You will see he is a rat.
    We can hand on heart say he is bezness and a rat....we just can't call him a love rat yet, as he hasn't resorted to playing his mastercard so far.....he is currently seeing how much control he has over Galetta with blocks and mention of other women.

    His mastercard is for when the desperation really sneaks through.....those three little words :thumbsup:
    Ideally, he does not want to play that card, he will hope to get cash off Galetta as friends, that way....he does not need to work so hard and he need not hide his other victims. If he has to back down and play the love card, things get more complex, he has to give her more of his time, other victims need to be hidden.

    Also, if he finds a better (wealthier) victim, and she is suspicious, he can say hey, I am different....you ask Galetta, I have been her friend for five years.
     
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    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    Thats what i mean all info should be posted on one ( meaning the story) i know people often reply to messages with their own experiances but it starts getting baffling when stuff posted everywhere.. And not the full story on one thread
    Just going to go to sleep i think because i am doing my own head in today . Shoot me  :snore:
     
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    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    Oh just quickly read the first few on bizarre behaviours and i remember now.
     
  10. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    My posts are also all over the forum, not contained on one thread. I was frightened to post on his thread when I first arrived, in case he had seen it.....so I posted relevant essays all over the forum :D
     
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    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    But we know your essays, as soon as the notification comes up mangochutney quoted your post we all know :D:p
    However trying to read through that thread to refresh whilst eating a terrys chocolate orange like an apple because its friggen hard.
    Its grim tonight hahaha
     
  12. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Literally laughed out loud :D:D:D
    Bloody hell, woman.....you'll break your freakin teeth!!
    I always throw mine hard up the wall a few times to separate the segments :D
     
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  13. Amira

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    Something strange is when he asks her for money because he has done it once. She says they are friends but for me she seems very gullible to think that she is unable to see how he really is because she has only chat with him. Feeling like he's making fun of her. It is easy to lie with only words maybe even his girlfriend is in this game nobody knows who is sitting next to him
     
  14. Brasilgirl

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    I agree. I think they all laugh at us. And I bet their girlfriend or wife is right along side them. Making sure they don’t stray off the rat path and stick to the goal.
     
  15. Heidi

    Heidi The Sleuth

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    :p
     
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    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Hahaha!!! I still have visions of GFTL trying to bite it in ball shape :D
    I just hurl mine up the wall.....that gently banging it doesn't usually work.....and my way is more fun :p
     
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    Heidi The Sleuth

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    I had to google the damn thing. We don't have it in Germany, but you can order it at Amazon for 4 Euro :eek:
     
  18. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Order one!!! Even for just once in your life, you should experience the fun that is trying to break the damn thing :D
    Just pop a pic of your favourite pet rat on the wall....and play shot put :D
     
  19. Amira

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    yes they play together. I don't think this man is single and I think he asked her for money to test her
     
  20. Mystery

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    Nothing good is going to come out of this relationship it's quite bizarre.
    Sorry if me saying that will hurt you.
    The women here only got your well being at heart. We lived this nightmare and we are still hurting. It takes a long time to get over it.
    What will kill you in the future is seeing him with his wife. I don't say this to be nasty but please get out of touch with him. Please find a man who can really make you happy because this guy cant.
    The end game for you is heartache for him it will be mission complete.
     
  21. Going for the limit

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    I was too lazy to go downstairs and try to cut it with a knife.
    Never thought about throwing it off the wall but knowing my luck it would of smashed everywhere haha.
    I think buying them in the segments is the way forward in future
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Never seen it! Will order one and smash it with a hammer--- looove dark chocolate yummm
     
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    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    You leave the sealed wrapper on it, just take it out of the box. It stays in the wrapper after every bashing, and trust me.....I've bashed a few :D
    Noooooooo!! :eek:
    Half the fun is in the bashing! :p
     
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    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    If you saw how i tried to. Eat that then you would just buy the segments too.
    I looked like a baby with chocolate all over my face and i didnt care either :p
     
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    It’s the only chocolate where I’ve eaten every bit and felt sick as a dog afterwards.
     

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